Why Women Lose their Sex Drive
People seemed astounded by Real Housewife of Beverly Hills Lisa Vanderpumps (and youve got to love that name) admission on Bravo TV that its not true that she and her husband Kenneth Todd only have sex twice a year. Well, not every year, Vanderpump explained. Christmas and birthdays, and thats his birthday, not mine. Mine is another day off.
On Andy Cohens show, Watch What Happens Live, Vanderpump, whose nickname to close friends is Pinky, laughed off the notion that just because she seems to talk about sex a lot (and she does), doesnt mean that she has a lot of sex. Look, she said, my husband and I have been married 29 years. Were very secure in our marriage.
It seems Vanderpump was making an important statement about the state of many long term happy marriages, i.e. marriages built on commitment, common values, love, respect and affection. The Vanderpumps have children; their daughter Pandora is 24, their son Max is 18. At one time, its easy to believe they had a vibrant and healthy sex life. But viewers of the show seemed uneasy to learn that the couple were no longer engaging in frequent or even weekly or monthly sex. Is that healthy, people wondered. Or could it possibly be true as one viewer wrote in, Dont rich people like sex?
While how much money a woman has doesnt necessarily have an effect on her sex drive, the real issue worth discussing is Lisa Vandercamps open acknowledgement of her lack of physical desire. It was refreshing, I think, and probably has to do with her age. Even if its true that Vanderpump was snatched from the cradle, when she married Kenneth Todd, the actress (she appeared in a number of films in the 70s and 80s, including one called The Wildcats of St. Trinian) is 51 years old, and its a safe bet to guess shes in menopause. Or post-menopause. And that explains it.