Why Women Lose their Sex Drive
Contrary to what our youth-oriented culture continues to hammer at us, its perfectly natural and normal for a woman to experience a decrease in sexual desire during and after menopause. Thats because of the drop in hormones. The reason for this is biological. Sex drive is connected to procreation, and after menopause, the body knowsthe time for making babies is done. To outsmart the bodys natural instinct to shut this down, women ask their doctors to prescribe hormone replacement therapy. But while the therapy does work to restore lubrication, which is a key element to successful sex, there still is no pill or drug or cream that can stimulate or restore the female libido.
What to do? Well, you can be like the Vanderpumps and find other paths to intimacy. Or you could take hormones, at least for awhile. A healthy and more natural approach is to go out of your way to find alternative ways to give and receive physical pleasure: a massage, plus lots of kissing and cuddling. If youre still interested in having intercourse or simply wish to please your partner, the main thing is lubrication. Without it, intercourse is painful and pain leads to further avoidance.
Heres something else good to know. The vagina is a very forgiving organ. Even if you havent used yours in awhile, it can come back. That old adage, Use it or lose it, isnt completely true. Once you start using it again on a regular basis, your vagina will respond and become as good as new.
About the author: Eve Marx, is an award-winning journalist, columnist, and bona fide Sexpert. As an authority on sex, dating and relationship advice, she is a contributor to Cosmopolitan, Savvy Miss, Mens Health and iVillage.
Do you think sex just a couple of times a year is enough? Share a comment below.