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Stress & Anxiety, Hosted by Brenda
Posted 7/23/08 7:46 PM
Stress & Anxiety, Hosted by Brenda
Brenda recognizes the role both play in her life. "Stress and anxiety aren't necessarily pleasant company," she says, "but sometimes they teach me a lot about myself and about being out of balance or incongruent. In that case I can call them friends. Stress and Anxiety? Yes...been there, done that, and made the silly T-shirt...LOL. But learned a lot and still growing."
--Brenda
By Oiseau
Posted 08/17/01 9:37 AM
Have you ever taken a vac from life?
Just turned the World off!
It's difficult for people with tremendous responsibilities, deadlines at work to meet, people waiting for their production to continue a process, children who are dependant upon you, the list is endless.
But I would suggest that you try.
PLAN on making the World stop for you and you will feel empowered.
Once that premise infiltrates our brain the World need only stop for a few minutes and we are once again in control.
Posted 08/14/01 7:16 AM
all those girls in love with horses . . .
Deb, your message reminded me of a book I bought long ago for my daughter when she was first experiencing her "love" for horses.
I wonder if girls, women, ever "get over it" -- the love we have for horses - it's almost "spiritual" -- like the "silent" communication you wrote about.
It brings me such plesure to be the first one to visit the barn in the morning -- I took a little guy with me today and the horses were very curious about him but more interested in getting their breakfast, as was my cat almost doing back flips to get me out of bed because she had no food left in her bowl as dawn approached.
We do "feed" each other, just as we feed the animals.
Live The Life You Want!
Posted 08/13/01 9:27 PM
Jump? - Still puttin' feathers in place, but...
That looked like a hug that could hold both us gals at the same time. Thank You Joseph, and like Brenda said, back at ya. Good strong arms are always appreciated. GOD speed.
(((((((Deb)))))))
Posted 08/11/01 9:50 AM
I hate it when that happens
Took another nose dive for a few days. Ouch. Sometimes a gal just wants to erase the canvass of her mind, but then I guess we'd miss that opportunity to grow. The healthier side of my brain says I should be excited about the hindsight that'll eventually come. A full 20/20.
Cause there must be some dandy stuff I'll have learned from this one.
And you're right Brenda, as usual. I do have to allow it, and I feel like I'm making some strides, baby steps, but strides. Gotta start somewhere. And I've vowed to be patient with myself. I realized that I need to treat myself with the same understanding & love I would give to my daughter if she was going through this. Sometimes, being grown women, we forget that there is still that little girl inside of us that needs nurturing. Sometimes I forget to love me.
Re: meds, I did take Prozac for a little while, but started feeling like a human blank. So I'm staying on vitamins and some herbs, and lots of green tea, to keep my immune system boosted. When I slack I can feel those shingles rearing up. I read about 5HTP and will give that a try as well.
Yesterday is gone, tomorrow hasn't arrived yet. Today I'm grateful for my many blessings. There is much to be thankful for.
Thank you Brenda for validating my feelings. That was quite empowering, and it felt like a much needed hug.
I hope this msg. finds you & yours happy and doing well.
God bless,
Deb
By bandradzki
Posted 08/11/01 4:00 PM
Deb so nice to hear from you. :)
Nose dives are allowed. :)
I do it ALL the time.
The last painful thing I went through (just the other day) I remember saying, "Right now I feel like do-do but I know that when I get through it I will have changed just that much for the better even though I can't see or feel that right now."
Our experiences help shape us but more than that, our interpretation of those experiences are really what are behind how we react, respond, and cope.
In another discussion I co-host, we were talking about acceptance. There are things that happen that we can't change nor our memory of them or our interpretation of them. We have to feel and accept that misery, horror, fear, sadness, whatever, and be gentle with ourselves, others and the situation before we can detach from it and move on.
One of our regular posters in that discussion said something a long time ago that the rest of us have said and used many, many times.
"Let go or be dragged."
The other day I couldn't let go so I accepted that I couldn't right then. I felt that and all the other feelings that I was going through. Once I did that, validated my own feelings, loved myself enough to do that, then I could let go. Well, actually it was not through effort at that point. It simply dropped.
You are healing my dear. You really are. :)
May peace and blessings be yours along the path to wellness.
Brenda
Posted 08/14/01 12:26 AM
"Let go or be dragged"
As a horsewoman, you have no idea how profound that is. As a little girl, I learned to spot impending doom, and when to let go. Doesn't mean that I didn't have to still suffer a few broken bones before I recognized that 'mustang glare'.
As unpredictable as Critters can be, I know, every time I step into my pasture to feed, how I should calculate my next move. I do know how to read them without words, it's a silent lingo. But a misinterpretation will get ya every time.
Every time a mishap has occured, I know that I walked out there with my eyes less than wide open. Did one of my horses take a cheap shot or seize an opportunity?
Either you learned from the forewarnings or some pain was involved while it was learned the hard way. And then you simply dropped. But while in the process of mending, you reflect and learn (memorize) the 'Natural' consequences in dealing with nature. It's so honest, a part of survival, if we intend to live in this world. By the grace of GOD I've survived thus far. Just need to heed the signs, whether they be internal or external.
I'm not so sure that we, as humans, have so evolved that we can completely remove ourselves from the natural food chain. Peck or be pecked, eat or be eaten, etc...Intellectually & technologically, we should be so far beyond that.
I accept that I suffer from the HUMAN frailties, all that emotional stuff. I've been told over, and over that it's a woman (girl) thang. We overcomplicate life. "Life is really black & white". Why then, do we want to add all the different shades?
Because I am, and everyone I know, is multicolored. We are virtual rainbows. At every angle you see a different colour of me. If the clouds are too heavy you may not see me at all. But with the slightest shift in the winds I reappear after the rain, with all my brilliance and beauty. Many stories have been told of the pot of gold I carry with me, but if you reach to take it, your hand will come up empty, for it is mine to keep. It shall never be taken from me, as it is a gift from God. But you may stand in the glory & beauty and share in the gold and richness of colour when the conditions are right for me to shine so brightly as God intended. You will never touch my beginning or my ending, but look up and you'll see how far I can rise above. And you will know that you have been kissed by the GODS when you have bathed in the full colour of Me.
Alrighty then, not sure where that came from, must be time for bed. Haven't done anything like that since I was a teenager. I'm just letting it go. No laughing anybody, it was just one of those things.
Brenda, hope your do-do days become less & less. Peace and Love to you dear Lady. Thanks again.
Deb
By bandradzki
Posted 08/14/01 9:21 AM
Rainbows
Deb, there is so much to enjoy and dine on in your post.
The rainbow part was particularly brilliant! I think you were "shinning through". Just dazzling!
Lots of people would rather things be black or white. But in reality black contains all the colors there are, doesn't it? It absorbs them. White reflects them. So the colors are all there in either case aren't they?
Thanks for the peace and love. No matter how much I am given, I always welcome more.
So glad you joined this discussion.
Bren
Posted 08/11/01 4:06 PM
(((((Brenda))))) (((((Deb)))))
By CHATTERPINKIE767
Posted 07/23/01 4:14 PM
me and my demon
I cannot shake off the feeling of a pillow over my head when I get to feeling that it is just too much to take. I know that this is my problem yet I can't help but really resent those around me who tell me that it is all in my mind and to get over it or learn to live with it. Easier said than done.
By bandradzki
Posted 07/24/01 4:33 AM
I hate it when that happens.
Until you have dealt sufficiently with something, you can't just "get over it".
You seem to be obviously doing all you can to "get over it" and certainly desire to. So to just curtly tell you "get over it" sends the message that they might be tired of hearing it, frustrated because they can't help you get over it, or they don't have a clue what you are going through.
It is like telling someone who lost their spouse of 30 or more years to just get over it. How do you do that?
You take one day at a time and desire to move on. You allow yourself to feel what you feel but learn to pull out and put your mind somewhere else until you come back to it again. You ALLOW it without suppression and without condemnation but you keep pulling out when you can until it has run it's course.
Memory seems to stay but it starts fading.
This is how it works for some people.
Have you also been given medication to help with the anxiety a bit? I don't suggest becoming dependent upon that to help you but if it can give you a boost while you are working through this, it could help.
Stay in touch.
Brenda
Posted 07/23/01 12:16 AM
Enough is enough
A really bad thing happened at a job I had in Feb. of 2000. I didn't understand the symptoms I experienced from it, till my counselor explained that it was Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. We all go through difficult things in our lives and manage to survive one way or another. But all I have to do is see someone that used to work there and I might as well have gone back to the scene of the crime. I used to be such a strong person. My Sweetheart really needs my help financially, and he's becoming very stressed with the burden of being the only income provider. I experience so much anxiety and fear trying to make it out the front door that I don't make it. I'm so stressed that my back went out Dec. 27th. There was this big knot on the right side of my back and the pain was unbelievable. That was the 2nd time I was stopped in my tracks over this thing. But I realized a day or so later that the stress had to go somewhere. Proof positive that trying to stay busy and keeping everything buried inside doesn't make it go away. Everytime I try to meditate buckets of tears come pouring out. I've watched the Wisdom Channel hoping to find the right speaker, the right book, how to get centered. Thinking I've got a grip again I head for the closet to don my Professional attire and break out in hives instead. I keep praying for the strength and guidance to get this behind me. Sabre mentioned signs of Burn Out in a post but I didn't see a link. I've asked myself what my "pay-off" is for staying stuck, and I don't find more pain being a pay-off. I know I have to separate my "emotional self from the emotional experience". I don't know how to change my "perception" of what took place. But I know that somehow I have to start putting one foot in front of the other and walk past the debilitating fear. People who knew me would tell you I'm the last person that would be a recluse. But I only feel safe in my home. I have horses and have always lived for the summers to go camping & riding. I only go out to groom and feed them now. I want to be Responsible again, able to respond. My counselor said that alot of relationships don't survive this, but I don't want to lose my Man. He's trying to hang in there, but doesn't understand why I'm not just over it already. You know, pick yourself up and dust yourself off. Can you suggest books, forums, support groups, something? I wasn't this rattled when my Mother passed away(and I loved her dearly), or at the recent passing of my Father. I'm 44 yrs old and want control of my life back. I didn't survive this long only to feel like a scared little girl again. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
You sound like a wonderful group of women, and have enjoyed reading the forum.
Sincerely,
CountryGirl766
By bandradzki
Posted 07/23/01 6:00 AM
Hi Countrygirl!
PTSD. I think a lot of us have suffered this one and many of us didn't know it.
When things happen in my life that I react overly strongly to, you can bet it has something to do with a past incident and is PTSD rearing its head again.
You are in counseling and that is great!
Your sweetheart needs you to get over this and that puts more stress on you doesn't it?
Let me give your post some more thought and also to see what groups, books, or whatever might also be of help to you.
Meanwhile, perhaps some other readers of this discussion might happen by and will have some suggestions.
I just wanted you to know I have read your message and that I hear you.
Also, here are a few web sites you might find interesting.
Hope this helps some.
Brenda
By bandradzki
Posted 07/22/01 5:36 AM
One way to cope with stress?
Repeat after me:
"Let it be."
"Let it be."
"Let it be."
:)
By bandradzki
Posted 06/17/01 3:28 PM
I hate to say I am taking another journey but I am. LOL
I will be absent from this discussion until after my return July 8. I will catch up with you as soon as I can after my return.
Thanks,
Brenda
By bandradzki
Posted 06/07/01 4:55 AM
I will be away from June 8 - June 13. I will check back here up
I look forward to a great time, relaxation, and stress-be-gone. LOL
Posted 06/05/01 4:02 PM
walking
I ** love ** to walk - it cuts my stress level, if I have any :-) Haven't had any stress or angst lately - feels great!
Live the Life YOU Want!
Patt
By bandradzki
Posted 06/04/01 6:01 AM
How to cope with stress.
There are a lot of different ways.
Sometimes finding a GOOD listener helps you to sort out the thinking going on behind the stress.
A GOOD listener, won't judge you, throw you aside, write you off, stop loving you for whatever you say.
Getting it out and taking an HONEST and clear look at what is behind the stress can help you to clear a path to solutions. Solutions or actions, even if it is to change how you are thinking, will automatically relieve some of the stress.
Find a uncondtional loving friend/ear who will support you not in any craziness or side with you but will just allow you to ventilate, consider, think, and be who you are at the moment without judgement.
And take a little stress off.
Brenda
By bandradzki
Posted 05/18/01 2:16 PM
Bloom is off on a journey and I hope will join us again later.
Hi, Nettie!
Like the song says, "On a clear day you can see forever and ever more." ;)
Posted 05/18/01 7:45 AM
Applause
Bandradzki on you April post:
I just wanted to say that you have written this very well. I too have experienced this and it now is the way I address most things and situation I have at hand at any given time. A true healing application.
By bandradzki
Posted 05/18/01 2:13 PM
Hello DEB. Thanks for your post and may I say,
your applause felt good? :) I rejoice that you too have experienced this and have recognized it's healing properties.
Hope you come again to share your experiences and your wisdom.
Brenda
By bandradzki
Posted 04/13/01 6:14 AM
After having recently dealt with a stressful situation,
I have gleamed the following first-hand knowledge:
The more active emotion there is, the less one can think clearly and still give appropriate attention to the matter at hand in order to take steps to actually solve anything.
Emotions/feelings need to be recognized and addressed as well as any underlying beliefs and words one is telling ones self about the situation.
Once that is done, the emotions appear to be more manageable and in some cases take a back seat or temporarily disappear while the energy can be used to outline the action that may be necessary to go forward.
Sometimes another person can be so embroiled in the emotions that another person is needed to help them get a grip. Best thing you can do is let them ventilate - discharge and from there things get worked out.
Some stress is caused by denying the emotion or feelings. This "stuffed" away energy can sit and draw interest getting larger every day. Can cause illnesses. And eventually it can explode into an uncontrollable disaster.
Life is just full of lessons. :) Wasn't it Ben Franklin that said, "Experience is a dear teacher?"
By Nettie
Posted 04/13/01 3:05 PM
thanks Brenda...
for allowing me to see from your clearer perception...
xox
By latebloomer708
Posted 04/13/01 6:28 AM
Bless you, Brenda, for saying that so well.
Posted 03/29/01 11:48 AM
you said it!
Oiseau,
you're so right! You wrote: "When we become addicted to anything or anyone thinking that they have all the answers and that they are quasi Gods we fail ourselves."
Adele Davis was the "food guru" in my mother's day (Let's Eat Right) and then she died of cancer! Then there are the McDougals, and Dean Ornish, and macrobiotics, etc.
We can just take what we need from these "gurus" -- not everything works for everybody so we celebrate our differences!
Albert Einstein--"Whoever undertakes to set himself up as judge in the field of truth and knowledge is shipwrecked by the laughter of the Gods."
By Oiseau
Posted 03/29/01 2:18 PM
oooooooo Patt...thanks*
I LOVE that quote ha ha ha, what a keen guy that Einstien was!
Posted 03/28/01 12:10 PM
chemical imbalance(s)
Hi Bren,
Yes, I think food can contribute to well-being and not-so-well-being, too!
We are all responsible for our food choices and it's not a "stretch" to say we must eat FIRST what our bodies NEED and then consider our choices about what we "want."
I have a sign on my refrigerator which says "eat what you need, then eat what you want" -- that is, if I have any room left :-)
Dr. Andrew Weil has a book out entitled "8 Weeks To Optimum Health" -- the program works beautifully.
best,
patt
By bandradzki
Posted 03/28/01 5:23 PM
I have seen the book Patt but haven't really seriously looked at
Probably will now though. ;) Thanks.
Posted 03/28/01 6:25 PM
book/website
Before you buy the book, perhaps you'd like to check his website?
By bandradzki
Posted 03/29/01 4:37 PM
Thanks Patt, will do. :)
By Oiseau
Posted 03/28/01 7:04 PM
dr weil
I have both his books - gifts given me. There's a lot of common sense practice touted as well as natural and old asian remiedies for curing what ails you.
Last month he was interviewed on TV and some of the remedies that he has recommended were found to be questionable, not the proper amount of ingredient as indicated on the label.
As a guru he has most certainly helped people look at alternative medicine as a viable source of help and his best advice is prevention, maintenance of a healthy body and mind to maintain all around good health.
When we become addicted to anything or anyone thinking that they have all the answers and that they are quasi Gods we fail ourselves.
About that other chap that posted........
I think he was just making mention of a site as commercial exploration and not particularily in tune with this topic. I checked it out an nothing came of it.
Forums are quite wonderful for the simple reason that we can all express ourselves and for me it's meeting all these wonderful and fun people who think so very differently than me.
They all help me learn and grow......Not sideways PLEASE! ha ha ha ha ha ciao...oiseau
By JUMPINJACKF
Posted 03/27/01 9:14 AM
make-your-own-cereal is currently free
Ignore me if this is old news, but General Mills is testing a new website and for the moment you can get free (except for shipping) cereal of your own design. Meaning you can have wheat chunks and filberts and raspberries and chocomarshmallows or whatever combination of things you like. Must of us here will of course ;) be more interested in fiber shreds, soy clusters, and oat nuggets. I just ordered this morning, and it's supposed to come in two days packed in seven sealed bowls with my wife's name on it. I thought she'd get a kick out of it even if it's for me to eat. I'm not positive the entry code is REQUIRED, but if so the code I have is HEALTHINESS1.
Jack Fleming
By bandradzki
Posted 03/28/01 6:51 AM
Well Jumping Jack Fleming,
I am not sure what cereal has to do with stress and coping but I do know that when I am hungry, I feel stressed until I eat and then I have to cope with knowing that every morsel I put in my mouth puts more fat on my already well-padded body. LOL
Food - can it cause stress or call for coping?
Maybe stress is caused by what I THINK about something rather than the thing itself.
Thanks for stopping by.
Snap, crackle, pop! LOL
Posted 03/20/01 7:15 AM
I need a break
My situation is probably not unique but I don't know what to do. I am having to care for my elderly mother in her home which is about an hour from my home where my husband stays. I am only able to get to my home about 2 or 3 days a week which is an awful strain on any relationship. First of all I must say that putting my mother in a 'home' is not an option and she will not leave her home either. We don't have the money to hire outside help but mom can't be left alone for any length of time due to a severe loss of short term memory. When I do manage to get home (to my own home) I usually leave in the evening when mom is already in bed and come back the next day. I leave notes all over the place for mom so she will remember where I went,how to call me if she needs to, what food is in the fridge for her to eat, to take her medicine etc. I was wondering if there are any organizations that may provide volunteer caregivers for short periods of time so I won't feel so stressed out when I am not here taking care of her. I also find myself getting short tempered with her at times and feel so guilty because it is not her fault. My husband has been very understanding in all this as well but it would be nice to be able to spend maybe 2 days in a row with him sometimes, or go on a short weekend getaway now and again. Any suggestions for me?
By Oiseau
Posted 03/20/01 10:50 AM
Hello Caregiver* welcome
Please go to this Page that I host. Just click on the blue link.
Thirdagers Caring for Loved ones!
Beth McCloud is a professional and has listed many agencies in the States that can help you.
Please take the time to go through them. While you are getting oriented, have you tried your church?
There are many lonley widows who would love a chance to feel useful again, doing God's work!
Posted 03/18/01 2:22 PM
Unemployed Husband
Having trouble coping - 4th time my husband's been out of work in 8 years! And he's not getting any younger - nor am I! Having trouble keeping the fear out of my life. Any suggestions?
By bandradzki
Posted 03/19/01 6:36 AM
That is a fearful situation CHATTYHAR.
It might be difficult to find some calm and peace in the midst of the fear. Hard to divert your attention from the issue. It's big as life. Bigger maybe.
Coping doesn't necessarily mean turning the fear off though. Coping means plowing right into the heart of the matter and taking steps to alleviate the immediate crisis as much as possible and then to try to figure out what could be causing the re-occurring unemployment.
From you short message someone on this end can't tell what the core issue might be.
And, it sounds like you are exasperated and are at your rope's end with the fact that this happens all too frequently.
Fear can motivate us but too much of it overwhelms us and then the emotions keep us from being able to clearly make choices to change or fix what the problem seems to be.
Know that you have survived three times already and can survive yet another. Trust your own ability to figure this out. Get the immediate crisis worked out then tackle the bigger problem.
You may need a counselor or some qualified outside or third party to help you and/or your husband get to the root of the unemployment.
Does he need to train for other types of work? Would a change in what type of work he does help? Only you and he can find out what causes the problem or what might fix it.
Try to take a few minutes for your self. Walks sometimes help. Go to a park and walk or/and sit quitely and watch a water fountain. Do things for yourself that help to alleviate your stress and tone down your emotion. You know what works best for you.
Maybe you feel he is deliberately causing you distress. Be aware of your feelings about how this effects you and how you see him.
There can be so many factors of which someone on this end cannot be aware so all we could do is give you general answers.
I hope this helps. Please let me know how things are going.
Brenda
Posted 03/24/01 12:49 PM
Thanks for the Words
Thank you for your answer - I have already been to see a professional to help with the stress - it's working! Also just got back from a pedicure - it's a miracle how a little pampering goes a long way.
Yes, I am a survivor & will get through this bout of unemployment too. But it had better be the last. My husband held a very responsible job in a worldwide company - company moved & we didn't! Anyway, it's amazing to me how a woman can do whatever she has to to get things done - also become what she has to to fit the bill. Men (and their ridiculous egos) have a little harder time - that's the underlying issue here. Anyway, I appreciate your answer & love thirdage. Great place for us "older!!!" ladies to be.
Again, thanks for your advice.
Har
By bandradzki
Posted 03/24/01 3:10 PM
Har, I feel a lot a strength coming from your post.
It feels like you are doing very well with your present situation.
I think places like Third Age give us an opportunity to share and I think having someone really "hear" us non-judmentally, helps us to relax and allow our own solutions to come to the surface. It helps unblock any potential we have of our own. So give yourself credit for being able to relax enough to tap into your own potential, your own higher self. It will always guide you.
Please visit often and by all means enjoy visiting around in Third Age. It is truly a neat place to go and a good place to grow. :)
Hugs,
Brenda
Posted 03/16/01 6:24 AM
Blood pressure
I know that stress and worry can cause high blood pressure. I need to know how to not be stressfull. I have kids from 14 to 23 and some of the things they do can stress me out. They aren't bad things but seem very stupid to me as the decisions they make. I also get stressed on the financial end of things. Hope someone has an answer.
By bandradzki
Posted 03/16/01 8:10 PM
High Gary!
I will give you a couple of web pages that might help you. Click on these below.
These are good to start with. If you need any more, let met know.
You can certainly do things like exercise, warm baths, meditation, soothing music (this one is particularly good for me), and all sorts of things but the bottom line is you have to be willing sooner or later to learn to let go of things. And start to get a handle on what really matters and what kind of thinking stirs you up the most so you can do something about that.
We cause a lot of our own stress with our thoughts. The shoulds and oughts and strong beliefs we have about how things ought to be.
As parents we feel so responsible and that's hard to let go of. I am not suggesting you don't guide your children - especially those who are still living at home and under age. But I am saying that you can watch how your thoughts about what they do or don't do affect you and handle the stressors that come your way including the children with "detachment". Keep the emotions at bay if you can and deal with things with a clear head.
So deal with stress from all angles but work on your judgments and beliefs and try learning to let go of having to be perfect, of having to have all the answers, of having perfect children, of needing to control. That causes a lot of stress. I know. Does it to me every time.
Hope this helped some.
Brenda
By bandradzki
Posted 02/12/01 2:35 PM
Thank you my friends. ((((Nettie, Oiseau, PJ))))))
I think positive thinking also helps in times of stress if you can muster up some. ;) And I did and it helped. Your thoughts and prayers have too.
Karen is doing well so far after her operation. I still don't know a thing about the Holter Heart Monitor test. Not from any professional that is. ;)
The mind has so much to do with stress levels and health and a whole lot more. If you do things to reduce stress, that is wonderful but right mind can help keep stress away or help relax you sooner I think.
Now ......if I can just apply what I said. LOL
Brenda
By Nettie
Posted 02/13/01 5:43 AM
Brenda
So happy to hear karen's surgery is over and successful..
Maybe your test results belong in the 'No News is Good News' category!
xox
By bandradzki
Posted 02/14/01 5:36 AM
Yes, Nettie.
I checked with the office yesterday and no one has yet called them back with information on the whereabouts of my test results. The lady in the office continues to try to contact a person instead of a voice mail at the lab.
I decided yesterday that this was in my favor somehow. I am not sure how. But it is what it is.
Thanks,
Brenda
By Sabre94
Posted 02/12/01 9:08 AM
((((Brenda)) HI Brenda,
((((Brenda))
HI Brenda, Oiseau and Nettie
I have said a prayer that the results are good. Hope they are manageable and will not cause negative stress for you.
PJ
By bandradzki
Posted 02/08/01 1:46 PM
Hi Ladies!
I agree PJ, walking is very good during stress. I do a lot of thinking or talking. Ventilation gets it out in the open and you can deal with it. That's only one way walking helps.
Osieau, I think more often than not some of my beliefs, rigid or not (your #4) have been stress producers. Reframing is also a good tool. Not that the others aren't.
I have been waiting on a lab report that seems lost at the moment so my thoughts, beliefs, ideas, worries really are running wild, causing me to stress more. So am asking myself what my self-talk is and trying to deal with it from that angle. Seems IF they find the report, I may hear from them Monday. It's been two weeks. So the tension mounts. Got to DIS-mount it. LOL
Someone said that only about 2% of our worst worries actually turn out to be true. Dang! That little itty-bitty per cent can really wrestle you to the ground can't it?
;) Brenda
By Nettie
Posted 02/08/01 4:47 PM
stressing....
Sorry you are stressing over those results, Brenda. I'm sure we all would. The unknown is so often the fightening/stressing part...
I can suggest that you try to involve yourself with 'stuff' that keeps your mind off 'it'.
((Brenda))
By Oiseau
Posted 02/08/01 3:12 PM
Well darlin' Brenda......
here's a giggle. I once heard someone say that things DON'T happen because we worried about them! Ergo the low percentage! ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha
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