Stress & Anxiety, Hosted by Brenda

about not spending what I thought was adequate time with my child. Guilt will do a number on you for sure. Cause a lot of stress. But I was with my children every day as they grew up and I STILL can find myself feeling as though I failed to be the mother I thought I should be in terms of time spent with them and so forth. You can be with children and still not be with them if you know what I mean.

You can work on the guilt thing and learn to accept you are doing the best you can. If she knows you love her, that's the best you can give her regardless of the time I think.

You can also try relaxation teachniques - meditation, soak in warm tub, listen to relaxing music, and number of things but if guilt is causing your stress, it's just going to come back.

Maybe some other posters have some ideas for you to think about.

Brenda

God! If those got rid of pounds, I'd be skinny. ROFLOL!

I have been thinking about stress being that which we feel when we resist what is.

Still have a problem with that, I do. :)

to replace daily physical exercise:

1. Beating around the bush

2. Jumping to conclusions

3. Climbing the walls

4. Passing the buck

5. Throwing your weight around

6. Dragging your heels

7. Pushing your luck

8. Hitting the nail on the head

9. Bending over backwards

10. Jumping on the band wagon

11. Running around in circles

12. Climbing the walls

13. Pulling out the stops

14. Opening a can of worms
15.
16. Making mountains out of molehills

17. Wading through paperwork

18. Balancing the books

19. Starting the ball rolling

20. Going over th edge

21. Picking up the pieces

EXERCISE VETERAN?
If you already follow a good exercise program, congratulations
and keep up the good work!

Don't get discouraged, it get's easier. hugs *oiseau

Thanks for the good wishes for a good trip. :)

I inherited free cell on the computer so darned if I know how you get the thing. LOL But it's a great card game Janet. And yep guilty! I do it all the time while waiting for pages to load.
Can't just sit here waiting with nothing to do. ROFLOL

God! I hope I don't stress out because I can't get my free cell fix this next week. ROFLMBO

See ya later.

Love,

Brenda

What is Free Cell??

Sounds like something I could use while waiting for pages to load too LOL

Brenda, I wish you very happy holiday!!

Once you get the hang of it, it is sooooo much fun. At least I get to win once in a while with free cell. Solitaire bets the heck out of me. LOL

I haven't had a massage in a long time and think I am overdue for one. That is VERY relaxing. Helps relieve stress.

We can do things to temporarily help but guess if we never get to the root of what triggers off stress so much in us and why, it's going to come back.

Reminds me of trying to remove Palmettoes when we were clearing land in Florida years ago. If you don't get down with a pick axe and get that blessed root up, it will remain and grow.

Meanwhile, though, work with it on both levels.

I will be taking off a week starting tomorrow. I will try to get back in and post before I go, but if I don't, I will return after April 8. And I will see you all then. :)

Brenda

Sometimes I just play solitare or Free Cell. It works!

Things are going to show improvement very soon for you. I just know it.

Love,

Brenda

As I read threw these listens I realize that it does help to go into your own world to focus on yourself by thinking of happy thoughts, a pleasant part of your life that makes you relax. For my stress which is foot surgey which I had back in july of 99, and still out of work,bills. I relax by doing a hobby that I stopped years ago which is car models,playing games and reading soothing poems or letters from freinds. If you take control of your life you can be the stress instead of it beating you.

It used to be that I judged myself to be very impatient, most often at odds with myself and others when I had to wait, for anything!

That was when time was had a different meaning, had a different purpose.

It is no longer a factor as I AM rather than DO at this stage of my life. Being can be achieved anytime and so no time is wasted, as interpreted when we wait and stew for what we judge to be lost space.

I learned to get here by refusing to function with agendas anymore, to cease being part of the structured world.

Yes it is a marvellous luxury I have provided myself and not suitable for all but it works for me.

With this new vision I have helped many accomodate the bizarre practise of non-compliance to wasted time ie; A dentist appointment.

Allowing a 30 minute leeway for tardiness in respecting my appointment I then get up and leave if I'm not recognized or appreciated.

Oh yes, that's how I view it now! When questioned afterward or worse being sent a bill for MY not respecting a rendez-vous, with remittance of their due I include a bill of my own which usually is double or triple theirs with a description of why my time is so valuable.

Once I actully had the audacity to mention that I was unable to breathe freely due to the stress imposed by the atmosphere in the 'waiting room', for that's what it's called, like a holding cell!

Now, when I go for regular check ups I am welcomed most graciously and assured that I will be attended to shortly. THEY have learned respect and I no longer stew while I wait, I BREATHE nicely. Smiles........*oiseau

Mary, no matter how many times I read that piece, it is still significant. Good reminders for both helper and helpee. :)

Seems these days we do spend a lot of time waiting. Just how anxious that can make us depends on our frame of mind and that depends upon our interpretation of our situation I would imagine.

I not really terribly patient and yet I am. I think I am both because I can be patient, but sometimes while it appears I am being patient, I am also dialoging with myself how how long this is taking. ROFLOL

I guess finding something positive to do while waiting is a good way to deal with it and keep the anxiety monster from getting you.

Now if I can just remember that the next time I am waiting. :)

One last thing. Isn't it amazing what one can learn when one opens one's heart and mind?

Cool!

Happy Spring!

Brenda

But like the web site you directed us to said, when you are in the midst of a crisis you are right in the emotion of it and humor would not serve that person well right then. But once you have some distance from the crisis, humor can be beneficial.

My father was in a teaching hospital one time, very seriously ill. I had gotten the resident to check on him b/c his breathing seemed to indicate that he was in danger. They got the "crash cart" in there but sometime during the process, a doctor and students came in unexpectedly into the situation. The doctor with the students made some kind of joke which I could not quite hear (I was in the hall.) but it was a joke about my father. They came out laughing and carrying on and moved on down to the next room without a thought for my father's family who were gravely concerned about him. I wanted to strangle the doctor. It was no laughing matter to us.

The humor may have been an attempt to help the doctor and students in an uncomfortable situation or something but even at that it was not very helpful for us. We were hard pressed at that time to find humor in the situation.

This was very different from your example PeaJay. We also used humor during Dad's hospitialization as you did and it was beneficial to us; but, to have a stranger make jokes in the middle of a crisis about our loved one who was gravely ill was not appreciated. That was a horse of another color.

Humor under the right circumstances in midst of crisis can be a blessing and there's no doubt about that but under other circumstances, can make matters worse. Unless you could say that if in the story I just told you, the humor caused me to want to strangle the doctor, then it made me forgot my anxiety and fear for the moment in favor of anger. LOL

I am curious as to how people deal with a crisis? Here is an article I found on humour and crisis.

In a crisis, I tend to get really calm, deal with it and shake later.

Can we start a little discussion on this?

PeaJay

One night, a torrential rain soaked South Louisiana; the next
morning the resulting floodwaters came up about 6 feet into
most of the homes there.

Mrs. Boudreaux was sitting on her roof with her neighbor, Mrs.
Thibodaux, waiting for help to come.

Mrs. Thibodaux noticed a lone baseball cap floating near the
house. Then she saw it float far out into the front yard,
then float all the way back to the house; it kept floating
away from the house, then back in.

Her curiosity got the best of her, so she asked Mrs.
Boudreaux, "Do you see that baseball cap floating away from
the house, then back again?"

Mrs. Boudreaux said, "Oh yes, that's my husband; I told him he
was going to cut the grass today come Hell or high water!"

Do I need to try, try again? LOL

Thanks for stoping by NEW714! Lots of neat places to stop in Third Age. Hope you will visit again.

Brenda