Expert Advice Q&A: Can Tantra Help Me Prolong My Orgasm?

QUESTION: I've been married for two years now. I used to be able to have sex three or four times a night, but not anymore. And recently, I've noticed that I reach orgasm very quickly. Is there any way I can prolong my orgasm?

ANSWER: Young men in their teens, 20s and sometimes into their 30s, can have several erections leading to orgasm and ejaculation each time. As men age, however, this ability seems to vanish.

Lucky for you, Tantrics and Taoists are able to help with this issue. First, ejaculation and orgasm are not the same thing and they don't necessarily have to go together. Orgasm can occur separately from ejaculation, and therefore multiply for men, when they learn the techniques of mastery. Even modern medicine is now recognizing this fact.

Ancient sexual explorers took ejaculation mastery for granted. The elite probably perfected it during times when some men had several wives. As can be imagined, they had to be able to satisfy many women, so they had to last.

Techniques thousands of years old teach that by separating the orgasmic contractions from the contractions that propel the semen, a man can become multi-orgasmic without losing his energy or his ability to have very strong erections.

The techniques are actually easy for most men to learn. All you need is a little training time, some self-control (especially in the beginning) and focus. The basics include:

• Arousal techniques that take you right to the edge of (but not over) the point of no return.

• Self-control and focus so that you don't give in to going beyond that edge.
• Deep belly-breathing.
• Complete relaxation in high states of arousal.
• A commitment to practice a few times a week (what torture!).

Mastering these sexercises will allow you to realize full control of the ejaculation reflex, full body orgasms and much more enjoyment. It's fun to practice solo or partnered, and often gives couples new sexual territory to explore that'll enliven the relationship.

For full details, seek out inexpensive books and audio and video instructional programs that are easy to use. Most men will be astounded by the results after just a few weeks. Additional benefits include stronger erections, a more fulfilled partner, improved prostate health and the possibility of multiple orgasms.