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Relationship Red Flags

If you have been a reader of my posts, then you know that I often tell you that good relationships are quite rewarding -- but in order to have one, you have to work at it. Today, I want to address some of the ways to know if the person you're meeting will even make a good candidate with whom to have a relationship. I've also cautioned you, as the reader, that a person is unlikely to change once they're in a partnership. Who you see is who you are going to get. And for sure, you don't have the right to expect to change the person. Why you get in trouble But there are indicators to help you make a decision -- yes, those "red flags." More…

Relationship Red Flags

If you have been a reader of my posts, then you know that I often tell you that good relationships are quite rewarding -- but in order to have one, you have to work at it. Today, I want to address some of the ways to know if the person you're meeting will even make a good candidate with whom to have a relationship. I've also cautioned you, as the reader, that a person is unlikely to change once they're in a partnership. Who you see is who you are going to get. And for sure, you don't have the right to expect to change the person. Why you get in trouble But there are indicators to help you make a decision -- yes, those "red flags." More…

New Year – A Time for Change Part 2

So, have you started on those resolutions yet? How’s it going? I truly hope you read and re-read the skills I offered in last week’s blog. They really will help you achieve the results you want. As promised, today’s posting will talk about change as it pertains to your relationships. I think that there are a lot of expectations and misperceptions in this area. Hopefully, my writing will help to clarify some of these so you can have a better relationship in 2009! Some basics to watch out for More…

Love is Blind

Karen's new book now available: Mindfulness and The Art of Choice: Transform Your Life.  Check it out at: http://choicerelationships.com/mindfulness_and_the_art_of_choice.html I invite all of you to get a free monthly newsletter with relationship tips.  To sign up, go to: www.ChoiceRelationships.com Do you recall how it feels when you first fall in love with someone?  Those feelings are remarkable, like a natural “high,” the kind of stuff you wish could last forever.  And then for many reasons, those feelings go away.  For some, the relationship ends.  For others, it continues but in a more committed way.  Those of us who are in the relationship business try to teach you how you recapture those initial feelings. Perhaps, the biggest problem is for those whose relationship didn’t end but for whom it would have been better if it had.  After being with each other for the long haul, you start to realize that you weren’t really meant to be together.  How can this happen?  Well, love is one major emotional state and as that phenomenon, love is blind.  There are any number of things you’ll do in the name of love…and any number of things you’ll overlook. In today’s blog, I’d like to offer some tips on how to assess whether your relationship has some red flags. More…

Why Eliot Spitzer's Outer Child Acts Out

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Last Minute Valentine's Idea to Make Your Valentine Happy

What will make your valentine happy and satisfied on Valentine’s Day? Tip for men: If it’s a woman you are trying to please – whether your wife or girlfriend – above all, give her attention. She will enjoy the gifts and the card and flowers if you give them. But mostly she will want you to focus on her, to tell her you love her, to spend time with her without distractions. Make Valentine’s Day a smashing success by making sure that wherever you are and whatever you do, you give your beloved lady time, attention and focus. Here are some ideas: • Call her from work and tell her you are thinking about her. • Linger a little with her when you first see her. Hold her a bit tighter and give her a bit of a longer kiss. • If you are going out to dinner or a show, having an intimate dinner at home, or even dinner with the kids, pay less attention to what’s going on around you and more attention to her. • Make sure to end the night with some more extra attention, of whatever kind you choose  Tip for women: If it’s a man you are trying to please – whether your husband or boyfriend – above all give him approval. He will also enjoy the gifts and the card. More…

The Best Valentine's Gift to Give Your Loved One and/or Yourself

Flowers, candy, massages and gourmet dinners are all wonderful things to do for your loved one – or for yourself if you are single – on Valentine’s Day. However, the appreciation of those things or the enjoyment of them will only last for a little while. Then the effect and good feelings will fade. What will remain unchanged is the current state of your relationship, or if you are single, your singlehood. For many people, Valentine’s is secretly the day they hope their relationship will somehow magically turn around and be better from then on. Men and women everywhere secretly hope that their partner will finally get a clue about how to give the love or the consideration that have been needing in the relationship, so that there is a “happily ever after.” Singles secretly hope that maybe they will finally meet the right partner by this Valentine’s Day and get the love they crave, want and deserve. The candy, flowers and other things normally given or done on Valentine’s Day will not work that hoped-for magic. They will not permanently remake the relationship, they will not change frustration to happiness nor will they really make up for anything in a relationship. And they certainly will not bring in the right partner. But you can have that magic you are secretly wishing for. You can have a relationship that works. You can meet the right partner. It may not happen exactly by or on Valentine’s Day, but you can get a good start and feel hopeful about your relationship future. And that may be the best present you can give yourself and/or your partner. More…

Relationship and Dating Question for You Dear Reader

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Love Coach's Holiday Gift Guide: Gifts To Improve the Relationships of Those You Love For Under $30

I bet you are in dire need of a holiday gift giving guide that won’t drive you insane with mall and hi-tech store shopping and will help and improve the life of your gift recipient. For the first time ever, I present to you the Love Coach’s Holiday Gift Giving Guide. In this gift guide you will find gifts that will keep on giving by improving the quality of life and the relationships of those you love - all under $30. 1. Give the gift of time I know you have Heard this a million times – give time. It’s frugal; it’s smart, blah, blah, blah. But you have no time, you say. And I hear you. Yet, the reason you are shopping for someone, scouring the web or the mall for the perfect gift is because you love the person(s). And they/he/she loves you. There is a relationship there. And there is no relationship without time together. Your kid(s) or your spouse or partner may want that thing you are going to buy him or her, but what is needed is time together with you, your full focus and attention. Here is a handy dandy website to make gift certificates for time together. Go do it now and you can have the perfect gift done in 5 minutes flat! 2. The gift of music This gift may not make a huge difference in a life, but this music is so sweet, I had to include it in this list. More…

What Women Want in Love

When you consider all the myths about what men and women think the opposite sex wants from a relationship, it's no wonder so many singles are... More…