One Step at a Time

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When you have a great and difficult task, something perhaps almost impossible, if you only work a little at a time, every day a little, suddenly the work will finish itself. – Isak Dinesen

Coming back from an injury, sickness, stress, or major set back can seem like a monumental task. As we inch back, step by step it can seem like we will never be able to feel good again. But instead of focusing on how far we have to go it is best to try and focus on how far we have come. The road to wisdom is a journey of one step in front of the other. Slowly we learn to appreciate the movement of our bodies and the spaciousness of our minds.

One of the abstinence (to abstain or refrain from doing) in yoga is to practice non-violence. When we think of non-violence we often think of not injuring or hurting others. This is one form of non-violence, however non-violence also means not hurting or injuring yourself in body and in mind. It means to not be tough on yourself and push yourself beyond your present limits. 

One of the ways to practice non-violence is to be kind to yourself and that means appreciating each step along the way especially when life hands you a difficult task.  I am now recovering from cancer surgery and facing radiation. The progress is slow and the task at times is so difficult.  However I am trying to look at the progress I have made and be grateful for the ability to take each step forward.

Progress sometimes can seem to be of little consequence. I have found myself at times looking at how much I have lost instead of how much I have gained.  I can walk, drive and even have begun to teach my yoga classes.  Last week I struggled to walk, drive and could not even get into a yoga pose. My progress is slow but with each new day I am getting stronger.  Non-violence now means to be kind to myself and appreciate what I can do and how lucky I am to be out of bed and moving.

Before performing any mental or physical act we should reflect upon the consequences.  Yoga teaches us that when we are established in a state of non-violence we cultivate a spiritual force that connects all things and therefore do nothing that brings pain, anguish, fear or attachment.  Being non-attached we reach closer to cosmic consciousness.  And isn’t wisdom the ability to be cosmically conscious of the beauty and nature of life?

The main source of non-violence rest in the mind. The mind directs it’s thoughts in ways that manifest physically. Therefore to clear the mind of negatives and focus on the beauty and joy of the moment.  The more you begin to realize the spiritual aspect of all things the closer you get to experiencing non-violence. When your life is permeated with non-violence you rise above the hurt and the pain and the journey becomes lighter and the steps easier.  The difficulty of life gives way to an inner strength that makes even the most difficult task a work in progress that eventually finishes itself.

Doctor Lynn
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Joan, I wanted to say thank you for the kind words. I think the hardest part of my life right now is watching my other children, who have severe medical problems, watching my husband and seeing bitterness there, and not being able to do anything for them . When I lost my son i was dead for so long, and that is the only way I can describe it. I found him and that vision haunts me everyday of my life but I live in terrible fear that I may lose another child and i don't think I could ever go through that again. The pain is unbearable, I and one of my daughters went to a suicide grief group for years. It was strictly for survivors of someone close who had chosen to take their own life and if anyone who is reading this and has suffered a suicide I strongly recommend seeking out one of these groups. The grief process is different for everyone but for a suicide survivor it is especially difficult and different. And unless you have experienced it it is very difficult to understand. i remember my friends saying lets go out for coffee or something and they would say it's been months " you have to get a grip on your life" or something comparable and you can't, you just plain and simple cannot go and sit with people who don't understand. So thank you for your understanding and thoughtful words but at the same time we are here for DR lynn who I hope knows we are with, in your struggle. If ever you need to talk about it or anything I would be there for you if possible. I watch my daughter who I am so scared is giving up and I don't know what to do. When she's angry , she is angry at me, when she is afraid I see it in her eyes and just hug her, but she builds a wall around herself and won't let anyone in and that is the most difficult part. I don't know how to get through and I don't want her to give up, selfish as this sounds I can't lose her. But I feel so strongly drawn to this conversation, Dr Lynn you are so strong I can only repeat I have such admiration for you . But do know there are people right here who want to support you and do anything we can to make this easier, if not easier than maybe just let you know we are here and praying for you. Love, Victoria
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