Of Course You Want to Lose Weight ... or Do You?

By Garrett J. Braunreiter
CSCS, GHF's Success Coach

Many of us have fears that hold us back from achieving whatever it is we really want. One of the greatest fears is the fear of success, specifically as it applies to health and fitness.

Many of us have unsuccessfully tackled fitness programs in the past. These unsuccessful attempts can bring on the fear of failure. However, you may begin to realize that your weight problem goes deeper than that. You may feel uneasy, even scared, when picturing yourself "in-shape," energized and living life to the fullest.

Could it be that many people fear the very goal that they seek?

According to experts, that's exactly the case. Along with success comes the possibility that people will view you differently and treat you differently. Some people feel that getting and staying healthy and fit is "just one more commitment" in an already over-committed life. There is also the worry that as your body changes, you change, too.

The excuse of "I don't have time to exercise" is easily dispelled. However, the fear that people will treat you differently is not so easily gotten rid of. Even though the desire to look fantastic and feel strong is at or near the top of "want" lists, many people worry about the reactions to their improved appearance.

Suddenly, you're being flirted with and being showered with compliments. When you're overweight, you have the protection of the extra weight that takes you out of the competition. In other words, excess weight can serve as a barrier of protection against what is desired and, at the same time, feared.

Strangers and acquaintances are not the only people who treat the newly fit person differently. You may find that your relatives and friends treat you differently as well. You may even experience the loss of a friend once you get in shape (when he or she isn't), or at least notice that he or she is spending less and less time with you.

It's like they're saying, "I like the old, fat, lethargic you better." But what they're really saying is, "I don't like that you're improving yourself and I'm not. I'm jealous because you've done it, and I can't." They may view they way you keep yourself well as self-centered and narcissistic.

Family members can also have trouble dealing with a dramatic physical change. I can't tell you the number of times I've heard, "My husband doesn't support me. My kids think I'm a fanatic." Indeed, for some families, being together means stuffing your face. Auntie doesn't understand why you want to go for a 30-minute walk after dinner rather than have dessert. Cousins and uncles may be disappointed that you don't want to stay for the football game.

It's your job not to take this sort of "cold shoulder" treatment personally. Talk to them. Communicate. Tell them what you're trying to do. Tell them how much you need their support.

The fear is understandable. But the rewards -- better looks, better health, being more active, more confidence, more energy -- outweigh any fear. The changes in yourself are empowering and exciting. For the most part, your family and friends are likely your biggest supporters.

So, no matter what your fears, remember your goals. Keep your eye on the prize.

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