It's Never Too Late to Follow Your Dreams

Have you ever wondered what your calling is?

Not long ago, I began a speech by asking how many members of my middle-aged audience still didn't know what they wanted to be when they grew up. After a few giggles, more than a quarter of the people in the room raised a hand.

Some might argue that if you haven't found a calling by the time you're in midlife, chances are you won't. Meg Wolitzer, author of The Ten-Year Nap, goes even further. In a New York Times interview, she once declared: The notion that everyone has a calling, that everyone has a talent, that everyone has a passion, isn't true.

I'm not so sure about that. But even if she's right, before you put yourself in the I don't have a calling category, consider Adele Lerner (pictured here). At age 60, her husband gave her a paint-by-the numbers set At 83, she earned a bachelor's degree in fine arts. At 101, she produced her first art show. Now 103, she still paints, but she's also become computer savvy. She Skypes daily, talking to her daughter in California, and watches Sabbath services on the web.

Or take the late Mimi Weddell, who began her acting career at age 65. Over the next 25-plus years, she appeared in commercials, television shows, and such films as The Thomas Crown Affair, Hitch, The Purple Rose of Cairo, and Across the Universe. In 2008, she was the subject of Hats Off, a 2008 feature-length documentary. Weddell died September, 24th, 2009, at the age of 94. No doubt, she went out in style.

You might not be as artistically talented, or have the kind of gumption these two women possessed. But that doesn't mean that it's not worth exploring your own gifts and passions. Keep in mind that a passion can be something as simple as loving to garden or doing the New York Times crossword each day and that one's primary talent might be something as unpretentious as always seeing the best in people. One of my husband's many gifts, for instance, is being at ease with himself; and he puts that ability to good use with his hospice work. He doesn't claim to have a calling, yet he heeds the call of his heart. His mere presence makes others feel good.There is no need, in other words, to strive to become someone you're not. But why settle for being less than you are?Check out the trailer for Hats Off, the documentary about Mimi Weddell, here. Prill Boyle is a self-described late bloomer. At the age of 48 she left her teaching job to write a book about late bloomers. Defying Gravity recounts the stories of 12 "ordinary" women who have done extraordinary things later in life.
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